Divorced and Deceived: How To Trust Again

How can a woman who went through a bitter divorce ever be able to trust a new man again? If your husband, a man who you once loved and trusted, can hurt you so deeply, is it possible to open your heart to someone new again?

Often the wounds from a nasty breakup are deep and take time to heal. Although they do heal eventually, they leave scars. A woman entering into a new relationship after a breakup is on guard. Afraid to be hurt again, she protects herself by assuming the worst about her new mate, that he will eventually hurt her.

It is ironic that what you expect of someone is usually what you will get. If you feel you cannot trust someone, they pick up on that and may just prove you right. The key is not to rush to judgment and assume that the new man in your life will be like the last.

It is imperative that you trust your own instincts about this person. Listen to your gut. If this man is giving you no indication that he is an untrustworthy person, then give him the benefit of the doubt.

Love is about letting go and taking some risks. If you are guarded and defensive you will never find that special someone. It is not easy to take a leap of faith and trust a new man after you have been so deeply hurt, but the risk may be worth it and you might be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.

A MAN'S BEST FRIEND IS HIS DOG

A man’s best friend is his dog and his wife’s too, or so it seems in some divorce cases.

Once upon a time I was acting for a very intelligent lady: from memory I recall that she was a chartered accountant who continued in occupation of the marital home, a large house in the country. Her husband, whom I assume to have been equally talented, had left and was occupying a flat in the city. During their 10 year marriage they had acquired a somewhat lively golden labrador by the name of Bonzo. In the absence of any children, Bonzo had been clearly treated as a child substitute. He had a special place in both of their hearts, to the extent that upon separation they agreed to share his care. The correspondence in which I became involved went along the lines of:

In future could you please ensure that Bonzo is returned with the same collar and lead as he had when he went to your client?

It is becoming apparent from the state of his fur that, whilst in your client’s care, Bonzo is not being fed the premium dog food to which he is accustomed and it is understood that he may even have been given titbits from the table

Bonzo is a highly strung animal and does not take lightly to strangers, please therefore ensure that he is not introduced and on no account left alone with your client’s new partner.

During contact with your client it is evident that Bonzo is being over stimulated to the extent that when he returns to our client’s home he does not settle down in his basket in the kitchen but insists on sleeping on our client’s bed suggesting that your client may have erred in sticking to the strict rules agreed for his upbringing.

Last week your client failed to advise our client of her intention to take Bonzo to Scotland. It is important that our client is aware of Bonzo’s whereabouts at all times.

If your client insists on walking Bonzo close to traffic, then he must be vigilant in watching him and ensure that he keeps a tight hold of his lead. Reports that he was seen playing chicken with motor vehicles on the nearby dual carriageway on Sunday are most distressing.

Our client has invested in an insurance policy for Bonzo protecting against vet’s fees. Please ensure that your client pays half.

So it went on..

I like to believe that Bonzo matured into a gentle animal with a special spot before two fireplaces, but I’m not too sure.

A Single Mom's Dilemma-Spending Quality Time With the Kids

As a single mom is is sometimes difficult to find quality time to spend with the kids. After working all day, making dinner, helping with homework, making school lunches , doing laundry and the hundred other things single moms must do to keep the household running smoothly, we are ready to collapse.

This is precisely the time when you will hear the little voice of your child imploring you to play or read a story. Of course you will oblige, but what you really want to do is chill out on the couch and watch your favorite t.v. show.

As you rush through the story or play a quick game with your child, the pangs of guilt will eat away at you. You will berate yourself for craving time to yourself instead of enjoying time with your kids. So what is the solution? How can you unwind after a long, stressful day and still enjoy some quality time with the kids?

I have discovered that the key to making everyone happy is to find an activity that both you and your child enjoy. Let's face it, may of us do not find playing barbies or with trucks to be all that exciting anymore. But if you think back to your own childhood and reflect on what activities you enjoyed back then, you may come up with an activity you can do with your own child.

As a child, I enjoyed arts and crafts. My youngest daughter is also very creative, so doing some form of arts and crafts is something we can both enjoy together. Since my boys are obsessed with video games and the computer, it is a little more challenging to find something we mutually enjoy.

They do like playing Uno and Scrabble, tow of my favorite games. I have found that by spending as a little as thirty minutes with my kids doing something we all enjoy, they are more than happy to move on and occupy themselves while I get some personal time to myself.

Protect Yourself During A Divorce

Divorce can bring out the worst in people. An intelligent, sane person can become overcome with emotion and loss control during a divorce. For some divorcing women, getting a divorce can be a dangerous time, especially if there was any history of physical or mental abuse during the marriage.

This week ,a forty year old man and father of three, allegedly abducted his estranged wife in Indiana. Fortunately he released her and did not cause her any bodily harm. The couple are in the process of getting a divorce.

We do not know his motives for the alleged abduction, but we can probably assume that he is feeling out of control and distraught about the pending divorce. Some divorcing spouses can act completely out of character and do unimaginable things.

If you are in the middle of a divorce right now, make sure to protect yourself. Here are three things you can do to ensure your safety:

1. Limit contact with your soon to be ex. Do not agree to meet him alone, if he indicates he wants to meet with you to talk things over, have the meeting take place at your lawyer's office.

2. Exercise caution when coming home alone at night. If you have any reason to believe that your ex could turn violent , then make sure to have a friend or family member with you at all times.

3. Do not fuel the fire and antagonize your ex. Again limit contact, including telephone and emails. If he shows any signs of harassment, like excessive phone calls, driving by your home repeatedly or making threats, you may want to consider obtaining a restraining order against him.

You must protect yourself during your divorce by being aware of your surroundings and if your ex has given you any reason to assume he could be capable of violence , do not hesitant to contact the authorities.

CHELSEA AND MOURINHO SEPARATE

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The English football season always deluges us with high profile divorces. The one that won’t go away at the moment is happening down at Stamford Bridge where Mrs Chelsea has evicted Mr Jose Mourinho and given him a multi million pound pay-off too, if the press reports can be believed. Of course, no female bystander can understand how any woman would want to dump a gorgeous looking man like Jose. Also it seems that the young lads (a devoted and supportive family who are noted for the blue shirts they all wear) aren’t too happy either. Apparently some of them have taken to standing outside on the terraces wailing for Mr Mourinho by name. I assume Mrs Chelsea realised the pain she would cause to those close to her, as well as her own purse, before she took this dire step and must, therefore, have had her reasons.

LA Law

I want to practice criminal law in Los Angeles. I want to represent only celebrity clients in Los Angeles. I will win every celebrity criminal case in Los Angeles. Every celebrity defendant does. There was an interesting conversation on Court TV this morning discussing the LA prosecutors horrendous record in prosecuting celebrity defendants. If you are accused of rape and or murder in LA and are a celebrity your changes of acquittal are excellent. Do the rich really have better lawyers defending them? Absolutely. Do they in fact hire the best experts money can buy? Absolutely. But I believe there is another factor involved in these cases. It seems that the average juror is woe to put a famous person behind bars. OJ, Robert Blake, Michael Jackson, and now Phil Spector all treated very kindly by the folks in the LA jury pool.

Personally I think a change of venue is in order and that all of these beautiful people should be tried right here in Suffolk County NY. We have very expensive attorneys here on Long Island and could certainly put together a very nice dream team for the next celebrity murder trial. Alas, however, Los Angeles is now the place to maim and murder young innocents if in fact you are a member of the elite celebrity sect. The most that will happen to you is that you will be forced to live a quite unassuming life while you lie in wait for a chance to kill or maim your next victim. Perhaps you will even write a book telling the public how you actually effectuated the killings. The only saving grace in all of this craziness is that ultimately these murders will be judged in a forum where their wealth holds no sway.

LA Law

I want to practice criminal law in Los Angeles. I want to represent only celebrity clients in Los Angeles. I will win every celebrity criminal case in Los Angeles. Every celebrity defendant does. There was an interesting conversation on Court TV this morning discussing the LA prosecutors horrendous record in prosecuting celebrity defendants. If you are accused of rape and or murder in LA and are a celebrity your changes of acquittal are excellent. Do the rich really have better lawyers defending them? Absolutely. Do they in fact hire the best experts money can buy? Absolutely. But I believe there is another factor involved in these cases. It seems that the average juror is woe to put a famous person behind bars. OJ, Robert Blake, Michael Jackson, and now Phil Spector all treated very kindly by the folks in the LA jury pool.

Personally I think a change of venue is in order and that all of these beautiful people should be tried right here in Suffolk County NY. We have very expensive attorneys here on Long Island and could certainly put together a very nice dream team for the next celebrity murder trial. Alas, however, Los Angeles is now the place to maim and murder young innocents if in fact you are a member of the elite celebrity sect. The most that will happen to you is that you will be forced to live a quite unassuming life while you lie in wait for a chance to kill or maim your next victim. Perhaps you will even write a book telling the public how you actually effectuated the killings. The only saving grace in all of this craziness is that ultimately these murders will be judged in a forum where their wealth holds no sway.