I wanted to share this amazing article written by my friend, author Natasha J. Rosewood:

SEPARATING PEACEFULLY
by
Natasha J. Rosewood


Parting can be such sweet sorrow . . . or hell on earth. The only constant is change. But because we are always either infecting or affecting others, it is how we deal with those changing relationships that reflect what we are really made of.
All kinds of people come and go in our lives, some leaving footprints in our hearts and some leaving a hole in our souls and/or our bank accounts. So what price do we pay for perpetrating more anger and hurt during a separation? We can make a different choice. We can choose to separate peacefully.
Although each separation is as unique as the individuals involved—the following tips offer a way to leave our relationships with grace and our souls intact.
Don’t leave it too late. Take positive action while you still have something to salvage in the relationship.
Focus on a higher purpose than yourself. E.g. Your children or world peace. Then keep your eye and heart on the goal. Don’t waver from that vision!
Remove yourself from the game. Walk away from the who-did-or-didn’t-do-what power (less) struggle. If you have safety concerns while dealing with the other person, contact your local social services.
4. Treat the other person as able and willing. People often unconsciously respond and behave according to that higher version of themselves.
Speak the truth with compassion. When communicating your grievances, use the sandwich technique; positive (e.g. I appreciate you for this . . .), negative (However, I feel hurt/angry/disrespected when you) and always finish with positive (I would like to . . . remain friends/thank you for . . .).
Take responsibility for your part in the breakdown of the relationship. Once we accept our part in creating the problem, we also have the power to solve it.
Welcome the opportunity to grow. Whether we are the "dumper" or the "dumpee," we can acknowledge that this milestone is an opportunity for a new life.
Say thank you for all that person has taught you. Give each other something good to take away from the relationship. Be specific and be generous in your praise.
Give above and beyond. “Generosity is the virtue that creates peace,” say the Buddhists. Give more than is fair or expected or what the lawyer tells you. (If you follow these tips, you won’t need a lawyer.)
Embrace the FEAR. (Fictional Evidence Appearing Real) Be aware of what your fear is and ask yourself if it is, indeed, real. Only deal in facts, not emotions.
Ask for help. You are probably hurting. The physical equivalent of what you are experiencing might be having your skinned ripped off, exposing raw nerves. Get support from counselors, friends, family or strangers. You are not alone unless you choose to be.
Be kind to yourself and the other person. If you are the dumper, you may have being going through the leaving-grieving process for years. If your loved one is ambushed by your departure, give them time to catch up and come to terms with it. Be gentle in all your dealings.
The greatest gift of all in separating peacefully is knowing that although the context of your relationship has changed, you can look back with pride. Perhaps you have inspired others to do the same. Because if peace begins with you, here is your opportunity to bring peace to the world. Amen/Awomen!

Natasha J. Rosewood is an International Psychic Coach, Facilitator and Author of Aaagh! I Think I’m Psychic (And You Can Be Too). For details about her services, to purchase her book or subscribe to her newsletter visit: www.natashapsychic.com.

Relationships On The Rebound: Can they be dangerous?

I recently came across this article and wanted to pass it on to you because the subject is so important. When you end a relationship, whether through divorce or a break up wit a boyfriend, you need to be careful when dating again and choosing a new mate. Read what Author Sandra L.Brown has to say about the dangers of relationships on the rebound.

Grief and It’s Impact on Relationship Selection
BY: Sandra L. Brown, M.A.
Author of: How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved

Grief can have devastating effects on the type of person you choose for a relationship while you are still actively grieving the loss of a previous relationship. Many people do not realize they are grieving when a relationship ends which actually places them at-risk of choosing dangerously while being impaired by their grief.

Some people assume that grief is related only if your partner has recently died and if you are currently still saddened by the loss. But actually grieving occurs when any relationship ends—whether it is anticipated, desired, prepared for, or not. The longer the relationship existed, the longer the grief normally takes.

Persons are often distressed to learn that there should be a ‘time out’ from dating or future relationships when one relationship has ended. The rule of thumb is 6 months time-out for every 5 years of relationship. So if you were with someone (married or not) for 10 years that would suggest you take 1 year off from being in a relationship or dating. I get horrified reactions to that because most people think ‘just get your self back out there. The best way to get over someone is with someone else.’ Nothing could be further from the truth.

Many of my clients ended up in counseling with me because they did exactly that. While still grieving from a previous relationship, they hooked up and made some bad choices in the selection of their next relationship which caused them even more problems and pain. When you are coming out of a relationship, you are in pain even if you aren’t acknowledging it, even if you wanted out of the relationship, even if you had planned for the ending of it. When we are in pain, we are not in our best decision-making mind. When issues of the previous relationship are not resolved, many people go on to choose someone just like the person in the relationship they ended. Subconsciously they are trying to work out those relationship issues—but with a new person, instead of the one they just left.

Drastically, many people jump from one relationship to the next to avoid being alone. Alone does not necessarily have to mean = loneliness. But in these cases, people don’t really care about the quality of the next relationship they only desire to avoid themselves and the feelings of the lost relationship. These are issues for the person to work out with a professional because people who cannot be alone are at a significant risk of choosing anyone to avoid being alone.
The baggage we carry from the last relationship has the ability to impact current and future relationships. Ideally, none of us want to hurt new relationships with our old relationship issues that are unresolved. That’s why time off from relationships help us get some distance where we can assess the good and bad things of the relationship, our part in it, the types of people who we tend to select and whether we need to make some changes. These insights do not happen overnight or even within a few weeks. That is why following the formula listed above protects you from your own impaired relationship choices. Sometimes it allows enough time that you see you might need a few counseling sessions to work out your anger, fear, or look deeper at your relationship selection patterns.

The longer we wait and the more we work on ourselves in-between relationships the better chances we have of bringing a more healthy self to the next relationship and being able to spot potential bad dating choices.

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Lessons From A Millionaire

Tonight I held an amazing seminar where I interviewed

Best selling author and millionaire, Tracy Repchuk.

Tracy is the author of Millionaire Marketing Miracles.

I think the most important lesson I learned from Tracy

was on how to use pain and adversity to your advantage.

Tracy describe a time in her life when her business was in

over $100,000 in debt. What she did was make a list of all

of the creditors she owed money to and put that list in front of her each day to keep her motivated.

She realized that there was no way she could pay off that kind of money by getting

a regular job, so she plugged away at her business day in and day out with a fierce

determination to take her business to the top.

Today she owns 4 successful companies and is financially secure. But she still

uses pressure tactics to keep her on the top of her game. What I realized as Tracy

was talking was that sometimes we get too comfortable in life and we do not

take action.

Maybe we aren't even happy in our relationship or job but we stay because it is familiar and comfortable. It is too painful to think of taking a chance and possibly failing. So

we stay stuck in the same place.

That is why sometimes divorce or getting fired from your job can be the best

thing that has ever happened to you. you force yourself out of your rut because now you have to. It is a matter of survival.

So not all pressure is bad, leverage the stress and pressure you feel and make it work

for you, not against you. Let it push you to new levels in your life you never thought

were possible!

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How One Woman Overcame Her Brutal Divorce

Do you sometimes feel that life has given you a raw deal? Are you sick and tiredof going to work each day and then coming home to more problems at home?

If you are tired of struggling financiallybut wonder how on earth can you achieve your dreams when you are bogged down with personalissues, such as separation, divorce or beinga single parent, listen up.

Remember the post the other day about the woman who went through a terrible divorce, turned her life around and became a best selling author and millionaire?Well, I am honored to be able to interview her live, this Wednesday night, May 2nd at 9:00pm EST.

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Tracy Repchuk is the best selling author of"31 Days to Millionaire Marketing Miracles". Tracysuffered through a violent marriage and a brutal divorce. She nearly lost it all, including her business.Find out how Tracy turned it all around and went on to build a fabulous new life and career and how you can too!

I am especially excited for this call because I face the same problems you do. I am a divorce mother of four and let's be honest, it is difficult trying to support my kids on my own. I am looking to learn from Tracy on Wednesday night and find out just how she reached millionaire status.If she can do it, so can we!

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The Dysfunctional Blended Family

We all need to remember that the Brady Bunch was just a television show. As well intentioned you all might be, a blended family can and will still invoke a certain amount of tension and stress. I guess you can say that even intact families experience a certain amount of tension and stress, but the uniqueness of the blended family can produce specific anxiety that the intact family cannot. Blended families where the children do not regularly reside within the family unit are the type which cause the biggest concern. When a blended child enters into the nuclear family for a visit, they immediately feel the difference in the way in which they were raised or are being raised. Many times these children live in a one parent households normally and upon entering a nuclear family where both a mother and father are present can bring some very negative feelings to the surface. These children regardless of their age are transported back to a time when they wished Dad or Mom were both present in their lives under the same roof. Unknowingly and unwittingly in an effort to fit into the new family dynamic, turmoil is likely to ensue. Usually it is the step parent of this child that feels the consequences of these negative feelings. The natural parent, may step outside the box and relish the company of his or her child and ignore the problems that may be swirling around them. What can be done about this situation? If the visit is short lived, then perhaps it is best to ignore the controversy. If the visit is of a longer duration perhaps it is best for all the parties involved to get into counselling.
What are the ramifications to the family? Usually the children do just fine,it is the marriage which suffers. Couples who find themselves in this situation need to remember why they got married in the first place.

The Dysfunctional Blended Family

We all need to remember that the Brady Bunch was just a television show. As well intentioned you all might be, a blended family can and will still invoke a certain amount of tension and stress. I guess you can say that even intact families experience a certain amount of tension and stress, but the uniqueness of the blended family can produce specific anxiety that the intact family cannot. Blended families where the children do not regularly reside within the family unit are the type which cause the biggest concern. When a blended child enters into the nuclear family for a visit, they immediately feel the difference in the way in which they were raised or are being raised. Many times these children live in a one parent households normally and upon entering a nuclear family where both a mother and father are present can bring some very negative feelings to the surface. These children regardless of their age are transported back to a time when they wished Dad or Mom were both present in their lives under the same roof. Unknowingly and unwittingly in an effort to fit into the new family dynamic, turmoil is likely to ensue. Usually it is the step parent of this child that feels the consequences of these negative feelings. The natural parent, may step outside the box and relish the company of his or her child and ignore the problems that may be swirling around them. What can be done about this situation? If the visit is short lived, then perhaps it is best to ignore the controversy. If the visit is of a longer duration perhaps it is best for all the parties involved to get into counselling.
What are the ramifications to the family? Usually the children do just fine,it is the marriage which suffers. Couples who find themselves in this situation need to remember why they got married in the first place.