I've Never Done This Before.........


Walking into an attorneys office to discuss the termination of ones marriage to some people is the equivalent of getting dental surgery without pain medication. Believe me, I do understand just walking through the door is sometimes a very difficult decision.

Unless however, you are walking into an attorney who is counsel to the "stars" most clients entering into any attorneys office chances are, will be dealing with their first divorce. Sure there are clients who come in and say that they have been married before, but most will also say the circumstances were quite different so in effect each time is like a first.

Asking questions and getting information is the reason you have chosen to enter my office in the first place. You should never feel ashamed or embarassed by the questions that you ask. The only thing you should feel embarassed about saying is "I've never done this before" or "This is my first divorce." These unnecessary statements meant to mask what you perceive as your ignorance regarding the law is something most lawyers will just want to roll their eyes about.
Of course you don't know the law, you aren't meant to, that is why you are in our office in the first place. There is no need for you to make excuses for your questions. This is not a test, where you pass or fail based on your knowledge or lack of same. None of my clients are "experts" at divorce. I am the only expert...if you will:)
So my first piece of advice to clients. Do not apologize for what you don't know. Embrace the fact that you are seeking information and knowledge and soak it up like a sponge. Feel comfortable with the lawyer you ultimately choice and then let him or her do her job. Afterall....I have done this before...